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Divorce can be tough on kids during the holidays

On Behalf of | Dec 15, 2013 | Child Custody

The holidays are supposed to be a wonderful and enchanting time of the year for children. However, the reality of troubled marriages may lead to parents splitting up during what is supposed to be “the most wonderful time of the year.” Children inevitably get caught in the crossfire between warring parents, and they may experience an inordinate amount of stress because of it.

Children of divorcing parents deserve special attention during the holidays, but what should a parent do? This post will offer some helpful tips. 

Time is the best gift – Parents may feel guilty about putting kids through such a difficult time during the holiday season, and may try to compensate by purchasing lavish gifts. While this may make for partial gratification, kids really want to spend time with you.

Keep things special – As we mentioned above, kids may believe that they are the cause of their parents problems, as well as the divorce. Because of this it is important for them to know that you love them and that no matter what happens to your relationship with the other parent, they are special and loved.

Stay healthy – It may go without saying, but you can’t take care of your kids if you can’t take care of yourself. Maintaining your physical and (just as important) your emotional health is essential. Kids are likely to follow your lead, so if you are okay, chances are they will be fine too. If things get to be too much, don’t be afraid to seek help.

Source:, “Making the best of this pre-divorce holiday season,” Bari Zell Weinberger, November 22, 2013